An authentically soft answer is rooted in truth and contributes to both the individual and collective good of all men. This is the first step we all must take on the path of restoration/reconciliation. http://www.rebeccamcgrane.com/power-is-a-soft-answer/
Coming up with the right answer for someone can be difficult. Especially when you are both convinced there is absolutely nothing wrong with what each of you are doing. You may even feel a little inclined to hold back a teensy bit of your insight just to see the other person fail.
Iyov and his friends seemed to have had a similar problem the very first time
I was having lunch at a girlfriend’s house when her children came running into the room yelling and screaming. My friend didn’t yell back or even raise her voice. If anything her voice lowered and softened. But her children kept on with their behavior.
Later she and I were talking about what had happened. My friend was in tears as she confided in me she didn’t understand why God
Ashreinu, Ma Tov Chelkeinu, U’ma Noim Goroleinu, U’ma Yofo Y’rushoseinu. We are happy, how goodly is our lot, and how pleasant is our fortune and how beautiful our heritage.
Visiting my great grandmother was always so much fun. It seemed like each visit was filled with laughter, food, a sprinkling of lending a helping hand and a healthy dose of waste not want not. She is how I learned to use every bit of a lemon – even if my recipe only called for juice. She would loving grate the peel by hand singing or humming a joyful tune. My Sweet or Salty Lemon Zest is my modern interpretation of her recipe, which she got from her mother.